Apologising is one of the things my children have been learning about recently.
The thing is, they need to understand why they are apologising in the first place.
My son, Woo aged 8, is starting to backchat me sometimes. I’m perfectly sure that this is not unusual for his age and, in fact, it’s probably good for him to learn to speak his mind.
However, first he needs to learn when is the appropriate time to be having his say, and to remember who he’s talking to!
One day last week, the children were coming down for their breakfast. The twins had already come downstairs and I called Woo to come downstairs, then I called again… and again.
Eventually he came down. I said to him that I’d called him several times and he replied “I know, I know, I heard you for goodness sake”.
It wasn’t the first time he’d spoken to me like that on that particular morning.
Then I said to him “are you feeling grumpy this morning?” then he bit back “no don’t be silly, of course I’m not!”
By this time I’d had enough, so I said to him that once he’d finished his breakfast, instead of having some time on his Wii (which he likes to do before school) he could go to his room and think about why he shouldn’t speak to his Mum like that, and to come and apologize when he’d had time to think.
So off he stormed up to his room, muttering something about being hard done by because I was a meanie!
I carried on with the morning routine, then about 10 minutes passed and Woo appeared at the door of the kitchen.
“I’m sorry Mum” he said with tears in his eyes “do you still love me?”
I reassured him that, just because I’m not always pleased with his behaviour or the way he speaks to me, I always love him.
So I forgave him and we had a nice cuddle and I had my happy, handsome little boy back.
And hopefully he’s learned that sometimes if you hurt someone’s feelings, apologising is very important.Google+