Disappointment is something we are all used to, whether we like it or not.
But for children, the simplest thing can leave them feeling that “it’s not fair”.
Whenever I hear my children say those words, I reply by saying “life’s not fair, just get used to it and you’ll be happier”.
It’s human nature to feel that things should always go our way. Of course life just isn’t like that. As adults we usually just accept that and carry on with life. We feel disappointment because we didn’t win the lottery, or because we didn’t get the job we really wanted.
I’ve known people who have gone all through their lives, never learning to accept disappointment and ending up miserable because of it. I’m probably guilty of doing that myself too sometimes!
But for children to understand that not everything is going to go their way is really hard. They see a toy they really want but can’t have because Mummy and Daddy said no.
Or maybe one of their friends had a party for their birthday but they didn’t. They soon forget that they actually did get a birthday treat, it just wasn’t a party.
But learning to deal with disappointment is something that I think children should learn as early as they are able to communicate.
Sometimes it’s OK for a parent to say no, even if there is no real reason why they can’t have what they want. If they get everything they want, they’ll go through life expecting everyone to just provide for their every request, and end up feeling frustrated and disappointed.
Something I have noticed as I’ve gone through life is that the people who seem to be happier in life are quite often those who’ve either had some struggle to deal with, or haven’t really had much.
They’ve learned to be more grateful for the things they have got.
So surely by learning to say no to children sometimes and teach them they can’t have everything, hopefully they will end up happier as adults.
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