I like to get my children to help around the house, and teach them independence wherever possible.
Personally I think it does them good to learn certain jobs while they are still young. Of course that doesn’t mean that I’ve got them scrubbing the toilet or anything like that, but I do expect them to be able to tidy their own toys away, help keep their clothes reasonably organised and put their own washing in the basket.
I’d rather start now so it becomes a habit, than try and get them to do it when they are teenagers!
As soon as they were old enough to walk and dress themselves, I got them putting their dirty clothes in the washing basket. Once they had mastered the dressing thing, I taught them how to fold their clothes up if they were going to wear them again.
I’m also working on getting them to keep their clothes reasonably well organised in their drawers and wardrobes.
I certainly don’t expect perfection from them though. They are, after all, just learning.
Sometimes the children want to make their own beds, so I let them do it for themselves. I still change the sheets for them but it doesn’t hurt them to plump their own pillows and shake the quilt
When I was growing up, my parents got me and my sister doing the washing up, as soon as we were old enough to reach the sink. We were also expected to keep our own bedrooms tidy. I didn’t enjoy it at the time, but looking back it did give me some good habits and taught me what it was like to have independence.
As they grow up I will be teaching them more jobs around the house, as and when I think they are ready to tackle them.
Hopefully that way, when they become adults, they will be able to do everything for themselves and won’t be overwhelmed with looking after themselves.
Surely teaching them independence and giving them confidence and basic life skills is an important part of parenting.
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