At the moment, while on the school run, I have to go to two different schools.
I park near the twins’ school, then once I have collected them I drive round to a car park near Woo’s school. I then park the car and we all walk across to meet Woo in his playground.
There is a busy dual carriageway between the school and the car park, which at school times is manned by two school crossing patrol people.
Up until now, Woo has been quite happy for me to collect him from the playground, and all four of us walk back across to the car park together.
This morning, however, he asked me if he could walk across by himself and meet me at the car park.
I was totally unprepared for this, and a part of me wants to let him do it.
I have to confess that it would make life easier for me. I wouldn’t have to drag the twins across to his school. This would be really nice when it’s raining!
The trouble is it really isn’t about what is convenient for me. It’s about what is the best and safest option for Woo.
I don’t feel that he is ready though. When I do meet him at the moment, I am constantly telling him to stop messing around with his friends and to concentrate when the school crossing patrol people are saying it’s safe to cross.
I am forever saying “come on, cross…” “hurry up…”
I have to talk to him all the time and I can’t hold his hand because I have a 6 year old on either side of me.
He’s been practically begging me to let him do it on his own, so I gave him a deal. If he can show me how he’s going to be sensible while I am with him, I will consider letting him come out of school and cross over to meet me at the other side of the road, so we can walk to the car together.
The trouble with that is, he’s not happy with that idea. He’s not prepared to show me how responsible he can be.
So for now I’ve had to say that I don’t think he is ready. If he’s not mature enough to be prepared to prove to me that he can do it sensibly, then as far as I’m concerned he’s not mature enough to take on the responsibility of crossing on his own.
Am I being unreasonable?Google+