When it comes to breastfeeding, is there enough support for mothers that can’t or don’t want to breastfeed their baby?
For me any attempts at breastfeeding are thankfully a distant nightmare.
When my son was born, I had a long labour. From start of my pains to him being born by emergency c-section was just over 39 hours.
While I was expecting him, I had wanted to try and feed him myself. All the ante natal classes I had attended had given out masses of support for breastfeeding and actively encouraged the mothers to do it.
After 39 hours of being in almost constant pain I was exhausted. I was relieved once my son was born because he was healthy, and I soon forgot all the pain.
I didn’t really have a clue what to do during the first days of being a new Mum. The midwives kept telling me to keep trying to feed him. He was a little jaundiced so feeding him was really important to help flush out the bilirubin from his blood.
I’d had no proper sleep since the night before I went into labour, so I was extremely tired but kept trying to get my son to latch on. Some of the midwives were quite pushy and I didn’t really feel that they were very supportive. I seem to remember being made to feel like I was a bit of a failure for not being able to get him to feed and thinking that if I could just get some sleep I might have more success.
My decision to give up breastfeeding
My poor boy was getting more and more hungry. My husband kept telling me at the time that I should just give him a bottle and be done with it. Looking back he was exactly right. I was in hospital for four days, and it was only on the last night I gave in and basically told the midwife on duty that my son was hungry and I wanted to give him a bottle and not carry on with breastfeeding.
I was encouraged to try the breast pump first to see how much milk I was producing and, lo and behold, I wasn’t really producing any at all. No wonder my poor baby was hungry!
So I gave him a bottle, which he guzzled down and him and me had a really good night and we never looked back.
When I had my twins, I decided long before they were born that I would bottle feed. I don’t think it was a bad decision to bottle feed all my babies and they don’t seem to have suffered at all for me not breastfeeding them. They all seem to be quite intelligent and don’t suffer from asthma or any allergies.
I think that there is a lot of information and support to encourage breastfeeding, but not enough support for those mothers who, for one reason or another, can’t or don’t want to breastfeed. We are made to feel like we are somehow not as good at being mothers as those who do succeed in breastfeeding their babies.
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